If the girl in the mirror could speak, she would tell you to stop giving yourself such a hard time.
The girl looking back at you would say that actually, you don’t look so bad without make up. Just a little tired.
She’d say that although hormones have been making your skin terrible recently, making you act erratically and feel teary, this too shall pass. Just be patient. Picking at your skin is not helping. That will only leave scars behind. Crying, however, is ok sometimes. Just pick your moments.
She’d tell you not to wear clothes you don’t feel brilliant in. (Apart from on lazy Sundays when you want to lol about in trackies, that’s fine lovely. There’s a time and place to choose comfort over style). Otherwise, wear things that make you look and feel pretty good. You have a good idea now of what colours and styles suit you so don’t settle for less.
The girl in the mirror would be so proud of you for looking after your hair and your nails, you’ve come so far. At age 13 you started getting your hair chemically straightened every three months and didn’t stop until you were about 21. And every day you were using GHDs till you were about 25. Needless to say your hair was pretty frazzled. Some of it was literally breaking off. You’ve resisted the straighteners and kept your hair naturally curly and used treatments to put the moisture back in and it’s never looked better. Well done.
Likewise, you’ve bitten your nails FOREVER. For as long as I can remember, your new year’s resolution has been to stop biting your nails. In the summer, you decided enough was enough and overnight you stopped biting them. And now they look lovely.
The girl in the mirror would say to stop beating yourself up about the lumps, bumps and wobbly bits. Your body will never be perfect. And what the hell is perfect? Your body has done a pretty astounding job of getting you through life unscathed. Everything is working and it’s about time you started appreciating it. You’re not half bad!
The girl in the mirror CAN.
The girl in the mirror sees a girl done good.
(Sorry for the cheese).