I’ve been invited to the wedding of my school friend, Zahra, on Sunday. The invitation is for me and a plus one. My plus one is my boyfriend. He doesn’t think it’s a plus, though.
You see, my boyfriend is not a big fan of weddings. It’s not the hobnobbing with strangers, the endless photograph posing, or even the dodgy drunk uncle dancing. It’s the dressing up.
He’s a casual man. He lives in jeans in the winter and baggy shorts in the summer. These are combined with t-shirts and trainers. Don’t get me wrong, I like this. I’m casual too.
But I like dressing up occasionally. For him, having to dress smart for a whole day is not something he’s keen on.
So we’ve been trying to compromise. He has a pair of brown Dickies trousers which, when teamed with a shirt, look smart. He’s agreed to wear a shirt AND A TIE if they can be combined with trainers.
Now what’s the etiquette around this?
I think it’s ok if they’re clean and not scuffed up. So he’s bought a new pair of Vans for the occasion (which he’s desperate to wear between now & then but I’m refusing).
As I don’t see him dressed up very often, I asked him to try on the new outfit yesterday. He looks so cute. And very smart. And I love that his neck & hand tattoos keep him looking a little roughed up. Sod etiquette.